Bob Orrell

In a modest house, in a modest avenue behind the market place in Christchurch near Bournemouth lives the man who liberated the last fortification held by the Germans on D-Day. It was a tower in the Normandy seaside town of Ouistreham. He did it accompanied by just a crane driver and his mate and a sergeant known as Big Jim. And they were armed with only two sten guns that they had never fired and an innocent determination. With guts and naivety Bob Orrell, now 86 and at the time 25-year-old Lieutenant Orrell of the 9/1 Field Company, quite unexpectedly managed to capture 53 German soldiers. And a piano. At midnight on the night of June 9th, he and his comrades marched the prisoners to the nearest PoW camp. “I’d never seen it before so I don’t know how the hell we found out where it was!” he says now. They marched them in a single file. “I thought I’d get it so that one bullet would go through them all.” They left the Germans to their fate in France, but the piano remained with them for the rest of the war. They took it wherever they went and on every Saturday night they had a dance. “From a morale point of view, it was the best piece of equipment that anyone could have.”

To a younger generation the dignified modesty of a man like Bob Orrell has an almost unworldly feel. He and his wartime comrades experienced moments of history in conditions of conflict that seem barely intelligible even to a modern soldier. Civilians can only listen with quiet respect as these men and women tell tales of their bravery with an everyday shrug – how they lived in slit trenches barely wide enough to lie down in, wet and muddy for weeks on end, somehow grabbing sleep; how they crossed the channel on that historic invasion day in boats some so small they could only carry five of them and others big enough for two hundred. “I’ve thought about it quite a bit,” he says speaking easily yet with care, “we didn’t feel fear, more trepidation. The whole of our lives revolved around this single act. There was nothing else in those days. We just had to beat the Germans. In some ways life was really easy because you had no choices. You had just one fixed direction and you were wholeheartedly into it. You didn’t know what the bloody hell was going to happen or what was going to land where, but you had an unquestioning aim.”

He had joined up after completing his engineering exams in Bury in Lancashire. His father had been a cotton mill manager but the slump had hit the family badly. By the time Bob left school The Depression was at its height. He had always wanted to be an engineer and got an apprenticeship as an articled pupil in a small village called Tottington. He did well in his exams. “He got the gold medal,” says his wife of 59 years, Nancy, over lunch. “I wasn’t going to tell him that”, says Bob, “Just as I wasn’t going to tell him that I got mentioned in dispatches. I always suppose for the Tower, but they didn’t say”

Throughout the war he was an engineer, after a brief administrative mishap that signed him up to the Royal Army Medical Corps. “I think it was because I was serving my apprenticeship with a surveyor who was a sanitary inspector”. He started in Wales at Barry Island, moved to Scarborough and then served a longish stint at the Experimental Bridging Establishment in Christchurch where he met Nancy who was working on the switchboard. They eventually married in 1945. But before D-Day his company spent a month under canvass in Billingshurst. Then on the night of June 5th they received orders to move to Southsea.

“No one knew anything about the invasion”, he says, “There was tremendous security and we didn’t know what was going on till we got on board.” The company was split between two boats “in case we were shelled and you didn’t want to lose the whole organisation.” He and two hundred men, almost strangers to each other, set off for France arriving between 5 – 6pm later that day. “We were part of the assault group Sword and we landed somewhere between Roger and Queen – code names for the beaches. I was recce officer and we had landed on someone else’s beach because they had closed down the one we were supposed to land on. So I went off to look for everyone on this tiny 50cc folding motor bike. “ He is still unsure how he identified a rendezvous. “I’ve been wondering ever since”, he laughs. And for the second time in our conversation he says with a twinkle “I don’t know how the hell we did it”.

Bob’s job was to recce the area and find out what was going on. How much did he find out? “Not very much. I think I’ve discovered more from reading books and novels about D-Day since,” he says. But on the third day he saw the Tower. “There was a large area which was obviously a strong point. I had a look around and put in a report. There was lots of engineering materials lying around and I knew it would make a good depot for us because a lot of the kind of stuff we were bringing in was in fact there”. He produces a copy of the report which lists among other things: “ mild steel (MS) bars, odd lengths of RSJ, large amounts of electrical cable, steel tubing 2” 3” 4”, about 3/4 mile of rail track, cement – 50 tons, 10 concrete mixers …….. And 1 large power house (not yet investigated)”

“I had arrived at this place on my motor bike. I’d got a bigger one by then. Bloody hell what’s all this lot round here? Is it all mines? You know, you get of your bike and there’s no signs of any mines and you’ve got your bayonet with you and you start prodding the ground for anything metal.. .. And then you think ‘this is damn silly you can’t go on like this just forget it ‘ you can’t get anywhere otherwise.” He laughs.

At ten o’clock that night notice came through that the command wanted to know what was in the “large power house (not yet investigated)”. He commandeered the crane driver and his mate “because they hadn’t been doing anything that day. And we had been flogging our guts out”. And with 14 lbs of explosives off they went to investigate not knowing what to expect. “We didn’t really have any idea. I thought there might be some Germans dead in there. I just didn’t know.” He pauses and laughs gently. “It was the first time I had ever encountered anything like that”.

“When we approached the tower I thought I heard a noise and I also realised that there was an observation gun pointing down to where we were. Whether they had their sites trained on us I don’t know. We put about 7lbs of explosive round the hinges, which should have been ample. But nothing dislodged. The Germans must have heard that first explosion. We tried lifting the door off its hinges. But again no success. So we placed the remainder of the explosives on both edges of the door, lit the fuse and retired. That time we managed to blow the door completely off. We threw in a couple of hand grenades and went in.” They were surprised to hear a voice say in perfect English “Come upstairs Johnny, it’s alright.”

Bob declined. “Actually I said ‘Bugger that. You come down’ “. And two officers descended the stairs and explained that there were 53 of them in all. With some considerable understatement Bob says now, “well we were a bit out numbered. 53 were a lot more than I had been expecting. But they were as mild as could be really.” Given their numbers wasn’t he nervous that they might try and overpower him and his three colleagues. Why didn’t they? “Well I like to think it was my tone of voice! Actually the main thing that intimidated them was that they must have seen the sheer scale of what was going on around them. I think they had probably stayed quiet because they might have been doing a very useful job for the German army getting them information”.

After marching them to the PoW camp, Bob went back with the German Captain to investigate the Tower. “I told him to go in front of me because if there were any booby traps he could have the pleasure of setting them off rather than me. He just did what he was told” He didn’t try and run? “Where would he have gone? And I said to him ‘if there’s any funny business going on, all those chaps that we have just captured will be killed when they get to England”. He laughs heartily. “You see I was making up the rules of war as I went along.” When they got into the Tower, they found that the Germans had been having a party. All over the floor there were half drunk bottles of wine and liqueur. “I’d never seen a bottle of liqueur before that”.

Finally coming face to face with any enemy to whose defeat his short life had so far been dedicated, how did he feel about that German Captain? He thinks hard. “I don’t know that I had any special reactive feeling as though I wanted to jump on him or strangle him or anything like that. In the end they were just prisoners in my care and I had to just pass them up through the line.” Did he maybe have any curiosity about who the German was, about his family? Immediately he says no. It must have been just such a curious moment. What do you think when you look back on it now? “That it was just such a curious moment! “ And he laughs quietly.

That moment changed his life, Bob says now. “It was definitely the biggest moment in my life. I think it gave me more confidence in myself. It was such high drama. One part of me was saying to the other part ‘what the hell is going on now?’ and you sort of fight your way through every minute wondering what’s going to happen next. I guess I dealt with the unexpected and got through it all right”.

He has tried to trace the Germans, but with no success. We also tried for this article. But all the leading German expert on D-day, Baron Keusgen, could tell us was that the soldiers must have been from the 1st Division of the Heeres-Kunsten-Batterie (1/HKAA 832). But, he added, it would be almost impossible to find them as so many of the German records from the War were simply burned.

And for Bob Orrell, once the war was over he wanted just to get on with life. He never saw his three comrades again. “The crane driver and his mate may have been killed. Their truck took a direct hit when we were in Nijmegen”. At the end of the War there was a new life already. “What we had fought for had arrived and you wanted to forget the whole thing. I got rid of my officers uniform as soon as I could.”

The first time he went back to the Tower was in 1984 with his family for the 40th anniversary of D-Day. It was in ruins. But, modest to the end, he let slip to the information office in Ouistreham a little of the story. And they passed it on to a Frenchman called Fabrice Corbin, who has bought and restored the Tower and opened it as The Museum of the Atlantic Wall. Although they do not speak each other’s languages they get on famously. Bob Orrell is the Museum’s most honoured guest. What he did to capture the last German look out on D-Day is now commemorated in the museum and that and his medals stand testament to his bravery. “I got the oak leaf on my medals for being mentioned in dispatches. It was just for good service really. Not valour”. Many of us alive and free today would admiringly disagree.

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‘I was part of it. I killed your father’

Twenty years after the Brighton bomb, the IRA man responsible and the daughter of one of the victims came together in an extraordinary meeting. Simon Fanshawe took the chair

Simon Fanshawe: Jo, what compelled you to explore this path of reconciliation?
Jo Berry: It’s a choice I make every day. I mean, I woke up this morning and had to make a choice to carry on because today is a difficult challenge. Part of me just wanted to say: enough is enough. I just want to be quiet today. So it’s a choice to carry on this journey, to build bridges. But actually I have no choice. If I do not do this then I feel I choose to stay a victim.

SF: When you said that you wanted to meet Patrick Magee, what did you want to get out of that meeting?
JB: The year before I met Pat I did a lot of raging. I was ready, if it was right, to meet Pat. I wanted to hear his story. Why he planted the bomb, what had happened before and after. To meet each other as human beings.

SF: Describe the scene when you first met.

JB: It was Friday morning and I was going to Ireland. I was leaving my three daughters for the weekend and I remember I was making soup and cleaning the house. The phone rang. It was Ann Gallagher, a friend of mine since 1985. She said, “Jo, do you want meet Pat tonight?” and I said, “Yes, see you later.” I put the phone down. Then thought: no, it’s the wrong day. I felt so uninspired. I wasn’t interested in conflict. I just wanted to be a mother. I didn’t want to leave my children.

When I got to Dublin I felt so scared. Ann just said, “You cook.” Then the doorbell rang and it was Patrick. I remember getting up from the table thinking I just wanted to reassure Pat that it was going to be OK to meet me. I thought maybe he was more scared than me. [To Magee] Do you remember? I got up from the table and shook your hand and said, “I am really pleased you have come.” Do you remember what you said?

Patrick Magee: Something to the effect of, “Thank you for inviting me.” I certainly was scared, I’ll tell you that. I sought assurance from the people who proposed the meeting that it wouldn’t be confrontational. Once I was satisfied on that point I was happy, but I do not think I had really thought it through. I mean, I think it was more a kind of political obligation. So I stood at that door and became very nervous. I had this overwhelming urge just to talk to you directly alone. We needed to get away and sit down and talk. I felt a strong urge to be as open and frank as possible. I have no real recollection of everything we went through but it was absolutely from the heart, open, and one of the most powerful experiences of my life. Opening up to another human being. And nothing can prepare you for that.

JB: Do you remember the moment when you stopped being there to justify and opened up? Because you actually stopped talking.

PM: I do. I had this political hat on my head … the need to explain. But then I had to confront something that I have to confront every time I meet you and perhaps more so now because of where we are and the day it is, and that is that I am sitting with someone whose father I killed. Here in Brighton. Twenty years after your father’s death. I do not shirk my responsibilities for that. It was an IRA action, but whatever the political justification for it, I was part of it and I killed your father. And every time I meet you that is at the forefront of my mind. It is full of profundity and it’s shattering. Quite honestly, there’s no hiding to be done behind politics. The rehearsed arguments and the line might be sincere, but it’s inappropriate. We were communicating as two human beings.

SF: What was the sign to you, Jo, that Pat had opened up?

JB: That political hat came off and I think, Patrick, you took your glasses off; there was a tear. And you said, “I have never met anyone so open, with such dignity” – is that what you said? You said to me, “I want to hear your anger, I want to hear your pain.” And that is when I knew that we were going on a journey. That this was not going to be one meeting. And as you say, we were meeting as two human beings. My need to meet you matched your need to meet me. I did not expect that because I heard from other ex-prisoners who said to me, “Jo, you may need to meet Patrick, but he doesn’t need to meet you.”

But together we opened up your commitment to hear even my most difficult feelings. You have never shirked away from the times when I have been really angry or hurt or frustrated or cried. You heard it.

PM: If anything, that was a relief to me. It is probably harder when someone who I have hurt is prepared to listen and try to understand. Dealing with anger almost seems easier in some way. If that makes sense to anybody. I’m not sure it makes sense to me.

SF: What have you both got out of it?

JB: It is not easy, for either of us. I think we both have been courageous to meet and that courage has carried on. I am not an easy option for Pat. When Pat talks about the other choices not being there, not just in Ireland but around the world, that helps me understand why people resort to violence. It makes my passion stronger to find other choices. That is what this is about. Nothing is going to bring my dad back. Caring for Pat makes it easier to get some of my humanity back.

PM: The big lesson is that if you see people as human beings, how can you possibly hurt them? Then you think of all the barriers to that simple relationship occurring – political, social, economic. When people are marginalised or excluded they are left only with their anger. So do everything to remove the blocks and let people be human with each other. That’s the lesson from my meeting Jo.

SF: Is there something that you’d like to say to each other that you feel would be important for people to hear?

PM: I was talking about how tough it is – and it is tough we both know that – to meet you. But also I know I will keep on meeting you as long as you’re prepared to meet me. And I thank you, Jo, for being prepared to be as open as you are to me after what I did to you.

JB: I appreciate that. [Pause.] For me, meting you today, 20 years after you planted the bomb that killed my father, is part of something I have yearned for and worked hard for. [It has taken] years to reach this point, where I can sit with you and listen and understand. It means so much to me. I feel us being together brings something positive out of what happened 20 years ago. Every time we meet you are more open and vulnerable. And on days like this I really appreciate that.

· This is an edited transcript.

This article originally appeared at:
http://www.guardian.co.uk/g2/story/0,,1325824,00.html

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You don’t have to play it straight

Football has always been the preserve of red-blooded, heterosexual men, right? Think again. As the new season kicks off, Simon Fanshawe investigates how the beautiful game is being embraced by the gay community both on and off the pitch, bringing about a significant shift in the way many gay men think of themselves. Just don’t suggest it’s only because they like looking at the players’ legs

Five years ago it would have been inconceivable. Then, during the World Cup, a couple of pubs did it. But for Euro 2004 a whole rash of them up and down the country decided to exploit the commercial benefit of showing football live on television. The interesting part is that these were gay bars – and during Euro 2004 they were crammed. There are now thousands of bona fide gay footie fans, from Newcastle to Southampton, and Manchester to Millwall. The Gay Football Supporters’ Network (www.gfsn.org.uk) is growing faster than some gay dating sites. Football is coming homo.

When England played Croatia in June, a bunch of fans gathered in the gay pub the Duke of Wellington in Soho in London. David, a 35-year-old in PR, remembers: “There was just this whole bar full of lads. Everyone was cheering and roaring for England. It was like being in any straight pub. But then not. Beckham bent over to pick up the ball. Suddenly it was a gay pub again. Everyone whistled and hooted. Then the game carried on and when England won 4-2, the pub went beserk. Everyone was hugging and punching the air. The DJ came on the PA and said, ‘Let’s hear it for the lads,’ and there was a huge cheer. And then he went: ‘And here’s Kylie!'”

Gay life is more a game of two halves now, and less a bathroom of contrasting colours. Queer Eye for the Straight Guy is beginning to look old-fashioned and out of date. For every straight boy turned into a faux-mosexual with the flick of a camp wrist on television, there are at least two gay boys turning straight and coming out as football fans. And they are insisting on their share in what has been an often constricting gay identity.

Ian, a Leeds season ticket holder since he was eight, plays in the Terriers, a gay football club based in Yorkshire. “I’m 42, and when I first came out lots of other gay people thought it was strange that I was both gay and into football. But I have never felt contradictory and neither do any of my gay football friends. But recently, when I introduced my other gay friends to the Terriers, the players were all so straight-looking that they kept on asking, ‘Which are the gay ones?'”

This new generation of gay footie fans resents the kind of coverage that gay magazines give to fashion and looks and modelling and all the traditional gay content, and some of them have started campaigning for sports pages. They have a certain contempt for the kind of gay man that the magazines imply they should be. If there’s one comment that drives them up the wall, it’s the nudge-nudge from other gay men about the showers after the match. As Neil Fyfield, one of the players with the world-class amateur gay team, Stonewall FC, puts it: “These kinds of guys would only watch football to look at the players and all that gay shit.”

It’s of huge importance to these players and fans that “the gay thing” does not dominate who they are. Ian, the Leeds fan, says: “I went out the other night in Birmingham and I sort of felt sorry for those guys in the clubs and bars if that’s all they do. Playing football has really broadened my horizons and the kind of people I meet. And when I go to a match, I don’t need to stand out. I don’t need to be any different. I have the same passion as any other supporter. I am there for the football. If someone confronted me right out about being gay and it was directed at me personally, I feel strong enough to take them on. But I am not going to go mincing around a football stadium. I’m not really that kind of gay man. And yet that’s the type that dominates the magazines.”

Steve, a Cardiff fan, explains just how comfortable he feels in straight environments. “I feel possibly more insecure around gay people. In the clubs you have to be pretty and have a perfect body. It’s very exclusive. That’s against what the gay scene was supposed to be about in the first place, which was acceptance. The thing about football is that one side of being gay is being masculine. And football is masculine.”

This is a tectonic shift in gay identity. It is not for lesbians, it has to be said, for whom there has never been any major contradiction between being sporty and being gay (as Karen, a Sunderland fan, puts it, “in some places, it’s been obligatory”). Women’s sport has been far more integrated for a very long time, but for gay men this is a considerable change.

Thus, when Brighton and Hove Albion play, and the opposing fans sing, “Does your boyfriend know you’re here?” at the players and the fans, most gay fans appreciate the joke, despite the likely homophobic intent. Dave Nash from the local gay team the Brighton Bandits, says: “I am sure that there are people in the crowd watching who are closeted who might find it uncomfortable, but it is just kind of yob culture. Like when any team plays Shrewsbury, every one gets out the tractor jokes. So in Brighton, everyone does the gay ones.”

While seeing the joke, Nash doesn’t underplay the possible consequences. Neither does the FA, which is very enthusiastic these days about talking about gays and football. It held a summit on homophobia in the sport this summer and Lucy Faulkner, the FA’s head of ethics and sports equity, is at pains to point out that homophobic abuse on the pitch is a disciplinary offence. This season will be the first time in which the FA has been open about this policy – indeed it has made a short film about Stonewall FC to be displayed on its website as part of its “Football for all” programme.

Of course, most gay fans wish there was an openly gay player or two at the top of the game, but despite the best efforts of the FA and others, most observers think this will be a long time coming. David Beckham has made a small difference in broadening the idea of what kind of man a player can be, but his contribution is mainly appreciated by those gays who aren’t fans or players. “He has glamourised football,” Nash acknowledges, “and broken down some barriers.” Most of the fans I spoke to, however, weren’t particularly interested in him or the soft side of footballers. More typical seems to be this personal ad, posted on Gaydar, the country’s biggest gay dating site: “Sorted geezer and ‘Ammers supporter! Dagenham/Essex born and bred. Bling and cunty, laddy outlook gets my attention. For a larf and a pint down the pub.” There are many more like it on Gaydar; put “football” into the search engine and you get more than 800 matches.

And football has entered not just gay identity, but gay sex. Over the past few years, club nights devoted to footie fans with strict football dress codes have been springing up in the mould of the original Shoot!, in King’s Cross in London. The very ordinariness of real football fans has turned into a gay fetish of hyper-normality: Adidas, trackie bottoms, Lonsdale shirts, Rockport, Lacoste, baseball caps. It’s as far away from the body-beautiful gym bunny as possible. Gay sexuality is eating up straight masculinity, even if those who like to see themselves as the real fans, like Ian, vehemently reject it. “These people are a different breed from us,” he says. “And you can tell they don’t play, they’re not fit!”

The fetishisation of football, however, is growing fast. There’s even a porn video label called Triga devoted to it, selling titles such as “Game Over – Horny Soccer fuckers”. The national obsession with football has seeped into all corners of gay life. And what is particularly original about this scally-lad phenomenon is that for almost the first time, fashion is flowing from straight to gay. The only time this has happened before was when a swathe of leather queens effectively dressed as Nazis, and fortunately Freddie Mercury turned them into figures of fun. This time, though, there is no suggestion of parody: scally lads have zero irony.

With genuine gay fans cheering for England, gay players topping the amateur leagues and boys wearing the England strip for sex, straight and gay have started to overlap. They are claiming a common masculinity. And whether on the terraces or in the bedroom, it’s happening through football.

This article originally appeared at:
http://football.guardian.co.uk/comment/story/0,,1280683,00.html

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Bigotry in the bloodstream

The TV adaptation of Angels in America shows how far gay men have come in the 20 years since Aids emerged, says Simon Fansh

The terror comes rushing back. Watching a preview of the television film of Tony Kushner’s Angels in America this week, the fear swept over me. I had forgotten that when Aids first appeared, I felt we were cursed. I have always remembered the iceberg ads, the Dies Irae, the story that Norman Fowler had to ask his civil servants what a blow job was. But I had put from my mind the cold sweat of dread that broke when Aids first became our gay reality.

It is more than 20 years ago – 1981 – that Aids was discovered. I was in love, with a straight man. It was the safest sex I had ever had – abstinence. It was not my first choice, but I suspect he chose it with relief. He was a scientist. He was also the first person to tell me there was “this new gay cancer”. I rounded on him, hurling every rhetorical guilt trip in my anti-discrimination sling-shot. “Gay” cancer? He was homophobic, sexist, typically straight. Inside, I churned with panic as Aids pushed my gay self further towards the edge of society.

I was so out of the closet, but I hated being gay. I did not let on – even to myself. I was scared of sex, I just didn’t realise it. Instead, I bit my nails, acted defensively and hated myself. And you could see in the strident assertions of the legitimacy of our gayness that I was not alone. We had not long been out in the daylight, walking through towns and cities on the pavements rather than skulking at night in basements, so Aids felt like an attack aimed at us. Gays were one in 10 of the population. We were all to die.

Today, we understand so much about the pandemic in Africa, about the real routes of transmission, which are not via bigotry into the bloodstream of a minority, but via unprotected sex into the lives of those unable or uneducated to protect themselves. Back then, all we could do was grab a lifeline for our self-esteem by always mentioning the heroin addicts and the haemophiliacs – the three Hs. But the fact was that it was mainly us. Aids was the moment when liberation turned to annihilation.

Kushner’s great sweeping epic weaves that millenarial feeling of crisis around a brilliant anatomy of the assault in the early 80s by the Reaganite right on liberal values. “It’s a real revolution in Washington,” says Martin, a henchman of Ed Meese, Reagan’s brutally flatfooted attorney general. “We’ll get our way on just about everything: abortion, defence, Central America, protecting the family … It’s the end of liberalism, of ipso facto secular humanism.”

The right must have thanked God for Aids. Through fear, it struck at the core of our fledgling public identity, threatening to shut the fags up for good. Not only were we dying, but we were also politically powerless, dispensable, ignorable. Kushner uses the real-life character of the McCarthyite acolyte Roy M Cohn – the lawyer who harried a judge to ensure he sent the accused communist Ethel Rosenberg to the electric chair – as the vehicle for this idea. In what will remain one of the great speeches in 20th-century drama, Cohn (Al Pacino in the HBO/Channel 4 film), receiving his own diagnosis of Aids, rants to his doctor: “Homosexual. Gay. Lesbian. You think these are names that tell you who someone sleeps with, but they don’t tell you that. No, like all labels they tell you one thing and one thing only; where does an individual so identified fit in the food chain, in the pecking order? Not ideology, or sexual taste but something much simpler: clout.”

He then weaves a ferocious description of his own power, his access to the president, around the denial of his sexuality, triumphantly declaring, “I am defined entirely by who I am. Roy Cohn is not a homosexual. Roy Cohn is a heterosexual man, who fucks around with guys.” Meanwhile, the rest of us had to stagger on as ordinary homos, trying to mop up the blood, tending the wounds of the dying and trying to salvage our status as human beings and demand a place at the table.

The right didn’t kill us off. Clinton – and in this country, New Labour – appeared, and drew up a chair for us. Thousands of brave souls fought through the fear and terror to catch the imagination of the world – and people started to try to tackle Aids across the globe. When we started Stonewall, the first activists founded the Terrence Higgins Trust in memory of their friend, and gay men in New York played dead in St Patrick’s Cathedral as part of an Act-Up protest, we had to invent a sense of political legitimacy. Now, as the struggles move beyond the basic legislative programme of equality, we can feel the scope of gay activism broadening. No longer the pained howls of a minority against discrimination, it operates on the maturing realisation that the rights of lesbians and gay men illustrate the freedoms and responsibilities that we all deserve as citizens – being parents, being respected as next of kin, being protected by decent inheritance laws.

Angels in America reminded me that there really was a Dark Ages, a time when those of us who are gay were on death row. We fought for our reprieve. We are not there any longer. Nor are we as easy a political prey. We have learned how to walk the corridors of power with a little confidence. We are less of a pushover for Bush than we almost were for Reagan. Until I watched Angels in America, I had forgotten how frightened we were, and it made me realise how good sex is now.

This article originally appeared at:
http://www.guardian.co.uk/aids/story/0,,1141317,00.html

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Cooking the books

For Austen, meals were a framework for society. For Dickens, they were a sign of love. Simon Fanshawe chews over food in a few classic books – and offers some literary recipes

For Austen, meals were a framework for society. For Dickens, they were a sign of love. Simon Fanshawe chews over food in a few classic books – and offers some literary recipes

Patrick O’Brian
Food for work

The myth about food at sea is that it was disgusting. This was propagated mainly by one-legged, scurvy-infested, disgruntled ex-sailors from the era of the Napoleonic wars like the notorious Jack Nastyface. The clue, though, is in their disgruntlement. They hated the navy. The wider truth, which you find in the novels of Patrick O’Brian, is that the food had to be pretty good to keep the sailors working. His books celebrate, over many meals and adventures, the rather sexy intensity of the friendship between Jack Aubrey and Stephen Maturin, the Starsky and Hutch of the Georgian Navy, just recreated by Russell Crowe and Paul Bettany in the movie Master and Commander.

Three square meals was what the men got – “square” because the plates were – and by the 1790s they were eating 3,500 calories a day. The books have a genuine ring of authenticity, which extends to the food. They are peppered with references to bizarrely named dishes such as: Little Balls of Tripe a Man Might Eat For Ever, Cold Crubeens, Figgy-Dowdy and so on. Boiled Baby is often referred to in the books.

Boiled baby: serves four

4oz plain flour, 2oz suet, lots of nutmeg, 1/4 tsp cinnamon, a handful of lexia raisins (the really big ones you can get in Waitrose), enough milk to bind. Mix the lot and put it in a pudding bowl. Put a cloth over the top and tie it tightly with string around the lip of the bowl. Boil for two hours – and voila! Your baby!

Jane Austen
Food for society

“Much was said and much was ate,” Jane says in Mansfield Park. Food is everywhere in her books. It was the age in which British food was at the top of its game. And she used it mercilessly as a metaphor. When Elizabeth first visits Pemberley in Pride and Prejudice she sees a pyramid of fruit, which, the critics always remind us, signifies the social pyramid she will be ascending by marrying Darcy and the ripeness of their love. Food is the framework for society. It punctuates their days with opportunities for flirtation.

White soup, mutton with anchovies and oysters feature in Mansfield Park, while syllabub was typical of the time. Mutton is everywhere in the 19th century but I can’t see the point in eating it if you can have beautiful lamb. It is much more gamey, shredded in texture and, however well cooked, unappetising. Syllabub, however, is another thing. You can make it with a wonderful kitchen gadget known as a wooden cow, first described by Dr Hales, the canon of Winchester Cathedral, in 1758. It is a small bellows with a short length of copper pipe attached and to that fixed a perforated tin cube. But you can use a clean bicycle pump, if you don’t have a wooden cow – anything that will create the bubbles.

Syllabub: serves four

The syllabub mixture is easy. Combine single cream (a pint) , juice of a lemon, some sugar (2oz) and as much alcohol as you like and the cream will take – white wine, marsala, brandy, whatever. When you pump the bellows in the mixture you make a froth of bubbles. Lift them off with a spoon and put them into a flat sieve with a wooden surround. Pump, spoon, pump, spoon. It takes forever. Remember: the key is to create the bubbles. Then leave them to drain in the sieve over night. You will be left with solid bubbles. Float spoonfuls of it on to marsala wine in a syllabub glass, sprinkle with chopped almonds.

Charles Dickens
Food for love

When his father was condemned to the debtor’s prison at Marshalsea in 1824, the 12-year-old Charles was sent to work in a blacking factory for six shillings a week. He hated it. Food ran low. And his spirits ran lower. There is perhaps a little self-pity in all of this. But it has given us the rich counterpoints of moral value that food has in his work. The scrappy meal that Pip in Great Expectations delivers with trembling respect to the escaped convict Magwitch is a never forgotten sign of love. It is such a contrast with the empty luxury of the Veneerings, the pomposity and show of meals at the Dombeys’ and such a compliment to that great love feast, the Cratchits’ Christmas meal, which is the classic Victorian Christmas.

Not many people know about the cookbook that Dickens wrote with his wife, Catherine. What Shall We Have For Dinner was published under the pseudonym of Lady Maria Clutterbuck. There are few recipes in it, but it is more a planner of tasty menus designed to enable a wife to keep her errant husband at home.

Cheesecake is an element from a simple menu on page 16: A dinner for four to five persons – fried sole, shrimp sauce, mutton cutlets, salad, mashed and brown potatoes, cheesecake, macaroni.

Cheesecake: serves four

There is no recipe for cheesecake in the Dickens’ book, so food historian Valerie Mars suggests one from William Kitchiner’s The Cook’s Oracle, first published 1817. You are supposed to get unpasteurised milk, buy rennet (which is the enzyme chymosin that usually comes from the stomach of slaughtered newborn calves) and make your own curd cheese. It is much easier with a deli and a blender. Take 10oz of curd cheese (drained), melt 2oz butter (don’t let it separate) and mix with 2oz sugar, nutmeg, some brandy (but don’t make it sloppy) and two egg yolks. Whizz the whole thing up. Stir in a handful of currants and grated lemon rind. Line a baking tin with puff pastry – about quarter of an inch thick – butter it, spoon in the mixture, and bake for 20 minutes.

James Joyce
Food for organs

Leopold Bloom cooks a kidney for Molly Bloom’s breakfast. Food is not a literary tool for Joyce. Sex, farting and defecation get more emphasis in Ulysses. But Leopold Bloom, the central character, “ate with relish the inner organs of beasts and fowls… Most of all he liked grilled mutton kidneys, which gave to his palate a tang of faintly scented urine”. He actually buys a pork kidney – strange strange for a Jew. And then, his mind probably diverted by his unrejoindered desire for his wife, he burns it. Burned kidneys are disgusting. And yes, they smell of urine. Ugh. So Richard Corrigan of Lindsay House suggests a veal kidney instead.

Cooked veal kidney: serves two to three

Cook the veal kidney in its own fat: heat a pan, pop it in, baste constantly, take care not to over cook it. Just a few minutes. It is delicate. Take it off the heat, set aside for several minutes and let the juices drain away. Carve it and eat with relish but, like Leopold Bloom, with a certain lower-middle-class sense of self-disgust. Pour over harissa (a spicy tomato sauce) and serve with mash and cabbage.

Ian Fleming
Food for seduction

James Bond lived and played just as Britain tipped into an age of plenty. As Malcolm Muggeridge said: “Fleming’s squalid aspirations and dream fantasies happened to coincide with a whole generation’s. He touched a nerve. The inglorious appetites for speed at the touch of a foot on the accelerator and for sex at the touch of a hand on the flesh, found expression in his books. We live in the Century of the Common Bond, and Fleming created him.” And what straight man doesn’t still have ridiculous dreams of seduction à la 007?

Fleming uses food and drink as the central metaphor of this luxury of youth and sophistication. In Moonraker, Bond and M share asparagus (in season), hollandaise, lamb cutlets (again in season), peas, new potatoes, and a plain slice of pineapple (the height of exotic sophistication in the late 50s). All of this is accompanied by Scottish smoked salmon.

However there is one actual recipe from one of Fleming’s short stories: scrambled eggs “James Bond”. So to adapt Paul Johnson, “the appeal of James Bond was sex snobbery, sadism”… and scrambled eggs.

Scrambled eggs: serves four “individualists”

Take 12 fresh eggs, salt and pepper and 5-6oz fresh butter. Beat eggs with a fork and season well. Melt 4oz of the butter in a pan, add the eggs and cook over a low heat, whisking continuously. While the eggs are slightly more moist than you would wish for eating, remove pan from heat, add the rest of the butter and continue whisking for a minute, adding finely chopped chives or herbs. Serve on hot buttered toast in individual copper dishes (for appearance only) with pink Taittinger and low music.

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‘How frightening is this?’

Dawn French has confidence to spare – but a solo West End show still scares her, she tells Simon Fanshawe

“Hey, pretty boy, you want fuckee-fuckee?” The window has just rolled down on a passing Jag and a cherub with a long bob cut and a huge smile is leaning out. “Or do you want a lift to Basingstoke?” I’m walking to the tube after the interview and Dawn French is off to deliver a birthday present to her best friend, the actress Geraldine McNulty. It’s a mystery how she can drive a grown-up car. Her legs are just too short. She is small in height and large in girth, yet manages something that is supposed to be culturally impossible: being funny and fat and sexy all at once. And she is almost unfeasibly upbeat.
“Well, I’m not always, obviously, but mostly. I’d rather have a happy life with lots of laughter in it. We’ve all been dealt some terrible cards, but generally I’ve had a very happy life. You don’t get to 45 without some self-doubts and some demons. But they’re just demons.”

Exploring such things on stage has never been her stock in trade; she has more often just been fabulously girly and jolly rude with Jennifer Saunders. But in a new one-woman show in the West End called My Brilliant Divorce, by the Irish playwright Geraldine Aron, she is about to play a woman wronged by and divorced from a man who cheated on her.

After the tabloids went for her own marriage three years ago, claiming that they had caught her husband Lenny Henry with his pants down, isn’t she tempting fate? “Am I?” she says with a kind of steely naivety. Then she makes a refreshingly open breast of things. “What people think happened in my personal life is only what they read and I have no interest in telling people what really happened. I do believe that we all need a bit of a kick up the arse now and again. We all fall off the wagon. I wouldn’t recommend it. But none of us are angels, are we?”

Later she says, apropos of something else, “When the press were making my life difficult – and it was them, not Len, making it difficult – whole interviews appeared that neither of us had done. Anything you read about Len and me at that time was untrue. We never spoke at all. And you know, they don’t know anything about what happened and what it was actually about. It wasn’t about women, though. The dignity I can have is to know what I know. I’ve never spoken publicly about what happened because” – she pauses, then continues lightly – “because what happened is nobody’s business, and that’s the honest truth of it.”

One paper even wrote her a note suggesting that they would make a donation to Comic Relief if she told her side of the story. “As if I would betray my husband in that way. And as if I would do it because it’s for charity. It’s just too sick. Like any married couple we have rough patches, but our instinct is to do this [she clasps her fingers tightly together]. Here’s something about Len that says it all. When he goes to bed, he puts his head on the pillow and that’s where he wakes up in the morning. He has no anxiety in his head. He’s like a big, solid rock. So if I wrap myself around him at night, I catch some of that. My heart rate slows. He’s a great anchor for me and I know people think it’s the other way round.”

She has enormous self-assurance, which, she says, she puts down to her father. Despite his own depression, which led to his suicide when French was in her teens, he assured her when she was growing up that she was the most fabulous, gorgeous thing ever and that she should never think any different. She never has. “I have a good instinct about men and love. If someone hasn’t noticed how fantastic I am, I can’t be bothered. I have genuinely never thought I was second best. Equally, I hope that I don’t think I am better than anyone. But I am not going to beg someone to like me, to be grateful for their affections.”

If this sounds cocky, French is not. She’s the most popular girl at school. She’s the leader of the tuck-shop raid, the general of the pillow fights. Her comedy with Saunders has always managed to retain that bolshie schoolgirl arseyness and sheer silliness.

But she has a bigger task with this new play. Apart from anything else, she has never been on stage by herself. “I mean, how fucking frightening is this, an hour and a half on stage on my own?” She originally turned it down because the first production was to be in Galway, the home of the Druid Theatre Company, whose director, Garry Hines, had commissioned the piece. “I could sort of hide behind the fact that I couldn’t leave my daughter for long. But when the suggestion came back to London, I couldn’t really say, ‘Oh no, I can’t get in and out of London.’ I only live near Reading! So the only reason not to do it became the fear.

“What I neglected to think about was how alone I would be. Usually when you do theatre you have a gang. And there are things you’re supposed to do like have a little rebellion against the director and do the crossword. I have had to make the cardinal sin of making friends with the director.”

Although she is alone, French will not be doing multiple characters. “I’ll be telling a story direct to the audience there, at that moment. We won’t be doing the Edinburgh thing of having a hatstand on stage. Jennifer and I did that the first time we went. And of course it’s exactly what you shouldn’t do. Apart from anything else, there’s nowhere to store it, and inevitably Legs Akimbo, the next show, will borrow it and break it.”

She has done more theatre than you might think. “Len worked it out the other day – I have spent four and a half years doing plays. When We Were Married, When I Was a Girl I Used to Scream and Shout, Me and Mamie O’Rourke, Silly Cow. And half of them were six-month runs.” The difference with My Brilliant Divorce is that if it fails, she’ll be the one who gets it in the neck. “Oh,” she says, “I’ll get it in the neck anyway.”

The only time her self-assurance fails is when talking about critics – especially TV reviewers. “They can’t harm the show because you’ve done it, but they don’t seem to have any passion for TV. It’s not like they ever teach you anything.” She’s not much softer on theatre critics. She claims to read reviews only before the last night. “I’ve got to do the show every night, and I know how good it is or isn’t, what I have to work hard at, what I think I am succeeding with. And I want to give the audience the show that way, not tainted with ‘Oh but didn’t she fade in the second half’, or ‘Isn’t her arse too big’, or whatever.”

So she won’t be seeing the reviews for three months, which is as long as My Beautiful Divorce can run because after that she’s off to play Mary Trewednack in the TV sitcom Wild West. After that she is promising to sit down with Saunders and come up with some new characters. And on March 14, for Comic Relief, there will undoubtedly be a few more charity snogs. “I’ve snogged quite a few boys… for work,” she says. “Hugh Grant – now he’s a really dirty boy! Last time I did it blindfold and I had to kiss him and the whole of Boyzone, but there was one who was really great.” Who? “Jamie Theakston.”

But it would appear that no matter who she kisses for charity, Len is the man for her. The one thing she won’t do with him is work. “No, not unless they bring that thing back where you sit in a box. What’s it called? You know.” Celebrity Squares? “Yes, I’d love to sit in a box with him on that.” Ahhh.

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‘Her death has made us stronger’

In their first major interview, Francis and Berthe Climbié tell how they are coping with the loss of their daughter – and trying to forgive her killers

Augustin, in his pyjamas and ready for bed, squeals in delight as he and I have a low-intensity water fight in his parents’ kitchen in their rented house in west London. Augustin is nine. His little sister Joëlle is five, as she announces proudly in English. To all intents and purposes it’s a perfectly ordinary family scene. But these two are Victoria Climbié’s youngest siblings. Their sister was tortured, and died at the hands of her great aunt, Marie-Thérèse Kouao and her lover Carl Manning, three years ago on 25 February. There were seven children in the Climbié family and the eldest, Jacques, was 20 yesterday. He celebrated it with his other brothers and sisters in Abidjan, the capital of Ivory Coast where they come from. But without his parents. They instead were here on the front of every national newspaper testifying with some considerable dignity that their daughter’s terrifying death had not been in vain.

‘The inquiry is a victory,’ says Francis Climbié, with the nodding agreement of his wife Berthe, the day after their press conference. ‘It has been a great victory. I mean that. Whatever positive is coming out of it has been achieved by Victoria herself. As a result of her death many weaknesses have been exposed in this country. If Victoria had not suffered and died then maybe what has been uncovered by this inquiry would have gone on for a 100 years. This has enabled them to learn the lessons and avoid another Victoria.’

They are a remarkable couple, full of grace and forgiveness. For them it flows from their intense religious faith. Despite the emotional chaos that must have followed the death of their daughter, they say that the ‘exceptional experience’ they have had here, however sad the circumstances, will help them ‘to move on and grow up and to try and help those who haven’t grown. The purpose of mankind,’ says Francis, ‘should really be to help those who are not capable of helping themselves.’

It has been a bizarre chain of events that has led them to Acton, talking today through an interpreter to a journalist about a press conference for a national inquiry – having spent the previous morning with a Cabinet Minister. They are ordinary people – a mother and a hotel worker – whose lives were changed, unpredictably and irrevocably, by the simple, optimistic act of placing their daughter in the charge of a trusted family member who promised her a better chance in Europe and who then, as Francis describes in a staggering understatement, ‘failed in her responsibilities’. In fact she beat, starved and killed Victoria. And the British care and support institutions failed to notice that it was happening.

Dr Nathaniel Carey, who conducted the postmortem, described it as ‘the worst case of child abuse I have ever seen’. In every report of her death the number 128 reverberates as a terrible echo of the startling abuse that was inflicted on her. It is the number of identifiable injuries found on her body when she finally expired at St Mary’s Hospital, Paddington. The system betrayed Victoria, and for all the restructuring of the child protection and support services that will follow Lord Laming’s report, and however much the state reassures us that this will be the last time it will happen, we know that no one can stamp out such cruelty completely.

Francis and Berthe have had to come to terms with this all too directly, and religion is what has made sense of it for them. ‘We have found peace within ourselves internally. And we have found peace with Marie-Thérèse,’ says Francis. ‘And I’ll tell you why. From the beginning we have said that we forgive Marie-Thérèse because God wants us to forgive.’ Berthe adds: ‘I did not condemn Marie-Thérèse; she was condemned as a result of the crime she committed. Now she is locked up by herself all I pray for is for her to sit and meditate about her actions and in turn ask for forgiveness.’

By all accounts, however, Kouao will not find such peace. She is difficult and argumentative in prison. Her QC in the trial, Michael Gledhill, describes her as having ‘an ability to make people accept what she is saying’. What he means is she is plausible, a liar and a bully. And also of course she is a relative of the Climbiés. She is Francis’s aunt. ‘So when she first came up with the idea of taking one of our children to Europe for education, we were pretty delighted,’ says Berthe. ‘We were very happy the day Victoria left. All her friends from the street came round and Marie-Thérèse took some photos.’

They never saw those photos. Despite promises of phone calls, the only news they ever got of their daughter after that was when Marie-Thérèse’s sister visited from Paris and brought them pictures of her. She looked happy and healthy. Then they heard that Marie-Thérèse had been promoted by the airline she worked for and was moving to London, which was another lie. And it served as an excuse for not returning as promised for the summer holidays to Ivory Coast. Amongst friends in Abidjan it is common not to hear from relatives in Europe for quite some time like this. Francis tried to organise a phone so they could call her, but landlines do not work in their area of Abidjan and he had no money for a mobile.

The truth about what had happened finally crashed in on their lives in March 2000. Francis by this time was out of work. He had left the hotel and tried to set up a restaurant business which had failed. One day he got a message from his uncle, Augustin Ackah, Marie-Thérèse’s brother, to go across town to his pharmacy shop where there had been a phone message from the police in London. The second call brought the bombshell. For a day and a half Francis tried to work out how to tell Berthe that their daughter was dead. ‘I was going from one friend to the next to get ideas how to break the news to Berthe.’ And when she finally heard, she says: ‘My soul changed. I spent all that evening crying. I just cried and cried. I could not understand.’ Even now she sometimes cannot bear to recall what happened to her daughter. ‘Even as her mother, who knows more details of the case than anyone, the only thing I ask from God is to give me peace. I find sometimes that it is incredibly difficult, even with my husband, to talk about the details. Sometimes I think that while all this publicity is needed, I don’t appreciate it very much.’

Their children have been wonderful. And amid all the pain, turbulence and financial difficulty the family seem still to find a great deal of lightheartedness in their lives. On the several times we have met we have always laughed a great deal. ‘As a family we do everything together. We share every thing. Victoria’s death shocked every member of our family, but it has made the family even stronger. When we travel here to Britain it is not easy and we are worried about the older children staying behind. But every time they say, “Don’t worry, go in peace, leave us in peace and you will find us in peace when you return. We will take care of the family and each other.” Even little Augustin will ask me questions about Victoria, and he always says, “Don’t worry papa, I will be a success.”‘

In the extended family things have not been so easy. Ivory Coast has a matrilinear society, so strictly speaking Victoria was a member of Berthe’s family. Her death at the hands of one of Francis’s family has created problems between the members of the extended clan. During the inquiry Francis said to me: ‘One of the reasons we are attending this inquiry and want a result is because the family is divided into those who believe that Marie-Thérèse was trying to help Victoria and those who believe she killed her.’ There have been attempts to overcome these divisions. ‘Some members of my family made a delegation to approach Berthe’s family to apologise and give their condolences,’ Francis recalls. ‘My great-uncle Moses organised this. He is one of the elders of the family.’

At the moment the divisions still remain. Berthe is the main focus: Augustin Ackah and other members of Francis’s family appear to feel guilty by association for what Kouao did and so feel that she is accusing them of Victoria’s death. Francis is hoping that the report will put an end to the hostilities. ‘We requested that the report also be in French because we wanted the family to have access to it. The first thing we are going to do is to try and make it available to all the members of the family, especially Augustin Ackah. He will be the first one I will give the report to. If he is in good faith he will accept what Marie-Thérèse has done.’

However, they have been managing to live with the support of the rest of the family. Francis also touchingly pays tribute to his wife: ‘I can’t thank her enough . She has been running a small takeaway food stall. That has enabled us not just to have food but a little change for the children when they go to school and to contribute to the rent and the bills. That’s how we are surviving.’

In Abidjan they have started work on the vision that now guides much of their lives. They want to build a school in Abobo, the suburb where they live. They don’t want parents in Ivory Coast to feel, as they did, that their children must go to Europe to be well educated. The elders of the district have donated the land for free if they can raise the money for the building. They estimate that all they need is £150,000. They asked Health Secretary Alan Milburn for a donation when they met him and, while promising nothing, he said that he would personally pursue it, and they have started a campaign in the UK. Volunteers – architects, lawyers and teachers – are already offering help in Abidjan.

On the morning of the press conference last week, Berthe and Francis prepared themselves through prayer. ‘We left everything in the hands of God,’ says Berthe, ‘and even if I was scared before I went to the press conference, the fear was taken away.’ They dressed up in their smartest clothes because ‘it was the most significant day for us’. And they roar with laughter when I suggest that they looked like stars, like Diana Ross and Marvin Gaye. But they are quite clear that they are not the centre of attention. ‘It is not about us,’ they both say. ‘It is about the spirit of our daughter.’ Building the school will dedicate Victoria’s life to other children. As the first verse of the song that Berthe sang in front of the press says:

A cry of joy, this song arises
to proclaim victory.
The day has risen,
A decision is accomplished,
Six hundred years in the gloom in one instant has gone.
Let us wake up in the light,
All young people in harmony.

It was Victoria’s favourite song.

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The power of forgiveness

Stephen Oake’s father prays for his son’s killer. Can the rest of us show such charity?

A policeman murdered. A family grieving. And then the shock of the remarkable as his father spoke. A former policeman, an ex-chief constable, he said as his son’s body lay barely cold, stabbed by someone described unforgivingly in the media as ‘a fugitive asylum seeker’: ‘I am praying hard for the fellow who stabbed Steve. I am trying hard to forgive him as I am sure Steve would… I don’t want any recriminations against him at all.’

When did you last hear such sentiments? After 9/11? After Lockerbie? After the last suicide bomb in Israel? After the Bulger case? Robin Oake shows us a glimpse of a world where the balance between reconciliation and retribution is held in the hands of justice and weighed in favour of our humanity.
What he will be able to do, as others who have taken this route before have shown, is to find a future for his late son, for his family and for the rest of us that few seem able to do. Not, to take three different examples, Ariel Sharon or George Bush or even, following her devastatingly personal tragedy, Denise Bulger. A stranger to peace since the murder of her child, she has remained suspended in a bubble of inertia and revenge, sustained by the press, looking to the murderers Venables and Thompson for a latter-day Myra Hindley to ignite regular bursts of ritual outrage. One wonders and hopes about the future of the parents of Sarah Payne, Holly Wells and Jessica Chapman, and Milly Dowler.

Why are some parents apparently unable to move beyond a cry for vengeance while others such as Robin Oake and his wife join an inspiring list of parents who have sought peace rather than revenge in the shadow of the worst wound anyone can inflict on a mother and father?

In 1987 Gordon Wilson, barely hours after he had held the hand of his dying daughter following the IRA bomb in Enniskillen, simply said: ‘I miss my daughter and we shall miss her, but I bear no ill will, I bear no grudge.’

Three years ago I met and interviewed Linda and Peter Biehl, an American couple whose daughter Amy had been killed in a toi-toi, a political riot, in the township of Guguletu on the outskirts of Cape Town in August 1993. Four young men were convicted of her murder and sentenced to 18 years.

Then through Desmond Tutu’s great experiment, the Truth and Reconciliation Commission (TRC), they applied for and were granted amnesty. Two of them are now trusted employees of the Amy Biehl Foundation established by her parents in their daughter’s memory.

I have sat at a table with Peter and Linda, and Peni and Easi, the two young men. I have heard Linda say, quite sanely: ‘Amy lives on in these two.’ And every time I tell anyone that story people say the same thing: that they could never do it.

Yet to the Biehls it seemed the obvious, not the exceptional, thing to do. They don’t want ‘closure’, they want Amy’s spirit to live. They want a future. They want her life to be celebrated, they do not want to stagger to the end of their days crippled by an open wound.

South Africa gave them a moment in history. Peter always said that they had the benefit of the African tradition of Ubuntu, on which the TRC was founded, in which as they say ‘one person’s humanity is fundamentally bound up with another’s’. Or as we might put it, there is, after all, such a thing as society.

When terror or violence strikes we are challenged to recognise each other’s humanity. In the words of Sister Helen Prejean, the author of Dead Man Walking, explaining why she was against the death penalty, we do it best when we understand that ‘a person is not just the worst thing they ever did’. That is the meaning of compassion.

Robin Oake called his son’s murderer the ‘fellow’. Not ‘monster’ or ‘beast’, but ‘fellow’. Another human being, like the son he killed. He recognised the potential for humanity in the midst of shattering personal terror. His whole body and soul appeared to be committed to ‘trying to forgive’. To remember, to judge and then forgive is a way for the world to touch on reconciliation, in domestic crime or in international conflict. The end of apartheid in South Africa gave a context for that process.

Could the current war against terror not be the moment to understand rather than take refuge in vengeance? Forgiveness does not preclude punishment, but it should be its natural corollary. The man who killed Stephen Oake should be punished. But like those who applied for amnesty at the TRC, he could then offer to Stephen Oake’s family the truth, an explanation and his most heartfelt remorse.

Rightly punished, then his vicious act would not become an excuse for the rest of us to wallow in vengeance. Stephen’s father isn’t indulging in hatred. In a remarkable act of goodness, he talks the language of fellowship. Would that Ariel Sharon and George ‘we’ll hunt down those folks’ Bush could find such humanity in themselves.

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You are what you own

Abigail’s Party was more than a celebration of naffness, says Simon Fanshawe. It was a warning about Thatcherism

Three years ago I interviewed the original cast of Abigail’s Party on the stage of the National Theatre for one of their Platform performances. It was like a revivalist meeting. It had the expectant hysteria of a pop concert.

The entire audience – apart from an American couple in the front row who looked as bemused as two nuns at a thrash rock gig – behaved like a religious congregation as they lip-synced the words of their creed, the improvised script that was developed by Mike Leigh and the five actors in 1977 for the Hampstead Theatre. They clapped every remembered phrase and gesture, and cheered at the hideous nouveau riche-ness of Beverly and Lawrence, who invite their neighbours, Tone and Angela and Sue, over for a night of Bacardi, g&t, “little cheesy-pineapple ones” and Jose Feliciano singing Light My Fire, which for some reason in later productions became Demis Roussos singing Forever.

But as the evening progressed, I realised that despite the gaggles of gay men howling at the high camp of Alison Steadman’s Beverly and the knowing hoots of derision of a middle-class crowd at red wine being put in the fridge, or Janine Duvitski as Angela describing what an “economical dish” pilchard curry was – despite all this, Abigail’s Party was more than a fiesta of naff and a hilarious opportunity to worship at the temple of tack. It was the most prescient dramatic warning of the Thatcherism to come, of the greed that would be good for two decades, of the elevation of objects and ownership beyond the value of community.

Forget the earnestness of David Hare and Howard Brenton and the angry anti-Tory denunciations of the red fringe theatre companies in the late 1970s; Leigh and his cast had vividly brought to life the gargoyles that decorated the edifice of the declining traditional working class. These were the people who turned their backs on Labour and thought that by buying their own houses in a new neighbourhood, hanging net curtains to shut themselves off from a world they didn’t have to look at and thus care about, they could take over the country for themselves. I’m Alright Jack and… Bev, Tone, Angela and Lawrence. Not that they knew that was what they were doing, or understood the effect it might have on the rest of us. They were far too self-centred for that.

Of course, no one actually talks about politics at all in Abigail’s Party. Which is the point really. Keith Joseph, Alfred Sherman and the other Tory ideologues embittered by the postwar consensus who hung their wretchedly reactionary ideas on Thatcher – they talked politics. But Thatcher didn’t. Her doctrine was entirely personal to her. She behaved as if the country was her father’s shop. She spoke to us like children, in the way of a provincial Sunday-school teacher. Thatcherism was, in the words of Nigel Lawson when he was Chancellor, “whatever Margaret Thatcher herself at any time did or said”.

It would be stretching a point even beyond the credibility of an Open University politics seminar to suggest that Beverly in Abigail’s Party is somehow Thatcher, or even a metaphor for her. But the play, as Leigh put it last week, “intuitively and instinctively took the temperature of what I believe is called the zeitgeist”. It is shot through with “received notions of how we should behave and what we should have”, he continued. “Beverly is a complete victim of suburban values.” As was Margaret Thatcher.

Richmond Road, where Bev and Lawrence live, has changed. Sue, the mother of the never-seen Abigail from whose teenage party next door she is a refugee, is middle-class. She is divorced and is part of a one-parent family. It is never articulated, but this last fact is the subject of some pity. Sue is a mild woman but clearly a free-thinking parent, and in some ways she is symbolic of the kind of bohemianism that was so rejected by Thatcher. Thatcherism was built by substituting apparent individual economic freedom for personal freedom embodied by sexual liberation. It sought to isolate the middle classes and their feckless sexual liberalism and attempted to justify the ambition of the new working class by cloaking it in the sanctity of methodist piety and calling it hard work.

Ironically, it was precisely the Tory battle cry of “Get on your bike” that broke so many traditional family ties and led to such disastrous levels of social breakdown. But aspiration was king, and communities were transformed. Sue – when pressed by Lawrence to say that their area has changed, “the class of people… the tone of the area… you don’t think it’s gone down?” – can only come up with a frighteningly polite: “It’s more mixed.” “More cosmopolitan”, counters Lawrence. Presumably he means ethnically. She thinks that’s a good thing; he does not.

They are not talking “swamping”. Leigh is too clever to do more than suggest the undertone. But it is unmistakably there. Lawrence is a Little Englander in the making, the estate agent with his bound and “gold-embossed” Shakespeare and Dickens, which he describes, with typical middle England anti-intellectualism, as “part of our heritage. Of course it’s not something you can actually read.” Naturally. It’s not there to be read. It’s there, along with the mock-Tudor houses nearby, to be a symbol of Britishness, which you certainly can’t lay claim to if you’re “cosmopolitan”.

The world of Abigail’s Party is one where you are entirely defined by what you have got, rather than who you are. Kitchens, sofas, tiling, tables: “It’s unusual isn’t it – with the wooden top and the modern legs?” “Yeah, it was expensive that one,” says Bev. And they’ve got candelabra. These people are not what they eat, they are what they own.

I remember vividly being in a pub in the very early 1980s in Brighton with a bunch of other community work types when we were turned upon by a lieutenant-colonel character, of the kind you only really seem to find in the plays of Terence Rattigan. After listening to our conversation about the local community for a while, he rounded on us in fury. “What do you lot ever do? You’re nothing. I mean do you own anything? I own a yacht and a house and a car. What do you own?” We didn’t. It defined us. The rest of the pub just sneered at us and our good intentions for the local area.

Along with her possessions, Beverly, for all her pretend permissiveness and flirting with Angela’s husband, is the very model of social conformity. She is, in Leigh’s words, “completely subdued by received notions of how we should behave and what we should have”. While the middle classes voted Tory, the aspirations that lifted Thatcher to power were really those of working people who had broken their allegiance to their own class. But having broken free of their roots and their communities, they were at sea, unanchored by any values. Thrust into milieux where they either didn’t understand the rules or just didn’t notice them, and with no collective history to guide them, they had no option but to turn entirely to the satisfaction of their own desires.

All the characters in Abigail’s party act deeply selfishly. They talk at rather than with each other. Beverly constantly pushes cigarettes, drinks, her taste in music and her advice on her guests without noticing she is doing so. The grown-ups in number 13 Richmond Road, despite having metaphorical poles up their arses which make them ill at ease with each other, try to enjoy themselves. But the teenagers next door with Abigail are the proto-punks who in a few years will be rioting against the poll tax.

Abigail’s Party described in savage detail the ingredients for the banquet of selfishness that was to dominate the Tories’ party over the next 25 years. The big recipe in the play is not for pilchard curry, it is for the triumph of material aspiration and lack of any identity for people outside the realisation of their own desires. Fortunately, before we all drown under the weight of arguments about its potential significance, Abigail’s Party is also incredibly funny.

· Abigail’s Party is at the Hampstead Theatre, London NW3 (020-7722 9301) from July 10.

The following correction was printed in the Guardian’s Corrections and Clarifications column, Monday June 24 2002

In an article about Abigail’s Party we quoted Mike Leigh, the director, saying Alison Steadman’s character, Beverly, was “completely subdued by received notions of how we should behave and what we should have”. Mike Leigh points out that her character in fact is anything but subdued. What he actually said (in a telephone interview) was that Beverly was “imbued with received notions…” etc.

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No one would have accused Rob Lowe of being a fine dramatic actor in his Brat Pack days, but he did have an aura. Then came the hotel room, the girls, the scandal. Now, playing a White House aide in The West Wing, he’s revealed a flair for smart dialogue and sophisticated comedy, and a whole new career opens up. Simon Fanshawe asks him where he’s found the willpower to hang in there regardless.

He sticks his head around the door of his trailer and says, “Hi guy, come on in.” He’s tremendously chipper, trim, tanned. Right down to the perfect stubble and the piercing blue eyes, he looks exactly like a poster of himself, all nicely airbrushed. Then I notice that his hair has got highlights. He laughs. “They’re not mine. They’re my character’s. If I didn’t have them, on screen it would look like I was wearing a black woolly hat.” Although this emphasis on looks may seem terribly superficial, with Rob Lowe you have to start with the face. He’s always been pretty, and that has had a lot to do with the way his career has gone, until now.

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In the first episode of The West Wing, Aaron Sorkin’s brilliantly written and popular eavesdrop on the White House, his character Sam Seaborn, the deputy communications director, unwittingly sleeps with a call girl – and then has a panic about whether it will ruin his career. Aha, we all thought. Clever casting. They’ve written a part that plays off the only two things that anybody knows about Rob Lowe.

One: he was a founder member of the Brat Pack in St Elmo’s Fire in 1985 – he played the rebel, the rock’n’roller, the bad boy, the one who couldn’t keep his flies zipped. And two: in 1988 Lowe slept with two girls – at once – at the Democratic convention in Atlanta, while campaigning for Michael Dukakis.

One of them was 16 and the other, her lover, was 22, and they videoed the whole thing and stole the tape. Ten months later, the mother of the younger one filed a personal injury suit. And as the balloon went up, Lowe’s career went down. He settled out of court, but got community service.

He says of The West Wing storyline, triumphantly, “I was cast after that was written.” So the sleazy resonances were a coincidence? “If Aaron was really writing to what people’s perception of me is, he’d have given me a love interest.” Then he lists the pairings in the series and, as people often do with TV they love, he uses actors’ names and characters interchangeably. “Martin [Sheen] has got Abbie [played by Stockard Channing], Brad [Whitford] has got Donna his secretary [played by Janel Moloney] and he’s now got Mary Louise Parker, as his girlfriend, and as of next week Richard [Schiff] has got Laura Dern. And I have nobody. But Aaron marches to his own drum. There’s nothing you can tell him. But if Sam had a personal life, it would definitely make him more interesting.”

Even without a love life, Seaborn is perfect casting for Lowe – and finally allows him to be more than just a pretty boy. The script suits his clipped timing, and he has developed a rather engaging, faltering, staccato delivery. And while he may not have the greatest range as an actor, it turns out that he has a considerable talent for slick delivery and sharp comedy. He describes the oh-so-optimistic Seaborn “as a master intellect with a varying level of expertise on almost everything. He’s a bit of a geek with a big sense of what is right and wrong. But when crossed he can be an unbelievable motherfucker, which is a great juxtaposition to have with his kind of exuberant puppy side.”

This allows Lowe a touch of drama and plenty of deft comedy. The West Wing is a throwback in style: the plots are driven by the witty rat-a-tat-tat of Sorkin’s dialogue that is more reminiscent of a Preston Sturges film of the 1940s or a Ben Hecht script than the dramatic realism of TV in the 1980s and 1990s. The inhabitants of the Bartlet White House are more Katharine Hepburn and Cary Grant or Myrna Loy and William Powell than they are the doctors in ER or the police officers in NYPD Blue. And no one ever accused Grant or Powell of being great actors. But they were great light comedy stars. The West Wing is Lowe’s opportunity to occupy the same kind of territory. Added to which, as he puts it, “It’s a team effort. There is never any doubt about any of these people’s abilities. These are fucking amazing actors.” And being among them has put Lowe on to the A-list.

He was brought up in Ohio, in “a traditional midwestern setting, surrounded by large Catholic families”, although his much beloved grandparents, Bob and Peg Hepler, were Methodists and he was baptised Episcopalian. But his family never really went to church, he says. His parents, a teacher and a lawyer, divorced when he was young and both re-married. He is the oldest of four, two of them stepbrothers; his younger brother Chad is also an actor.

When he was 12, in 1976, his mother re-married for the second time, to a therapist, and the family moved to Malibu. Lowe hated it. “I was not a happy camper. Coming from Ohio, I might as well have been dropped in from Mars. I didn’t surf. I don’t think I had ever swum in the ocean. And I wanted to be an actor. I had since I was eight or nine. It was like being hit by lightning. At that time, if you wanted to be in entertainment, I guess you’d have wanted to be in a band. There wasn’t the culture of young actors like there is now. I might as well have wanted to be a nuclear botanist.” He was beaten up for being a sissy. “Yes. Well, I have my sissy side, and Sam has that same thing.” He adds, with almost teenage bravado, “But I definitely got kicked out of school for fighting, once.”

Co-incidentally, Sean Penn was his classmate at Santa Monica High, and the Lowes lived across from the Sheens, so he knew Charlie and Emilio a little even before the Brat Pack days. The only solace of being in LA was that, “at least if I wanted to be an actor, I was in the right place”. And he started well. He was in a TV series called Thursday’s Child, for which he got a Golden Globe nomination. Then, in 1983, Francis Ford Coppola cast him in The Outsiders, his rather dark answer to American Graffiti, George Lucas’s prescient 1970s re-invention of the teen movie. He played alongside Matt Dillon, Tom Cruise, Patrick Swayze and Emilio Estevez. The Brat Pack was gestating.

The two signature films of the Pack, both released in 1985, were The Breakfast Club and St Elmo’s Fire. Now unintentionally funny in parts – a reminder that most of the 1980s hairdos were hair-don’ts – the films do summon up the atmosphere of an age. Still enjoyable, they were spirited precisely because they focused on the desires, problems, concerns and fears of the young. Lowe, along with the rest, came to symbolise a combination of optimism and ambition, and had the cash to back it up. It’s hardly surprising that he dived into heady excess. “I definitely enjoyed my life at that point,” he says, “I really did. It made me happy then. It wouldn’t make me happy now. It didn’t feel as if I wasn’t happy, although as I got older and started to work on myself, as opposed to just my career, I realised there were other things I wanted to deal with.” Like what? “Like acknowledging that there was great pressure from wanting to have a functioning major career from a very early age.”

As we talk, it becomes clear that what has always kept Lowe afloat is ambition and sheer graft. He may not have been in great movies, but he has always known how to keep his profile and his price up. “I don’t know what drives me. Things that I consider bad qualities, I always try and figure out where they are coming from. I don’t consider ambition to be a bad one. It’s served me very well in my life. Very well.”

By the time he reached his 20s, he was an emblematic figure on screen, and in politics, too. He was close to Jane Fonda and her then husband, the Democrat politician Tom Hayden. At 24, he was playing a prominent role in the Democratic presidential campaign. By 1988, Lowe was the new Warren Beatty, the young stud with a world view.

And then . . . well, then it got the better of him. A lot has been written about the incident with the young women. As people started snickering, the phones stopped ringing. Dukakis said, rather pathetically, several years later, “I guess I should have called him.” Careerwise, it hurt. In 1999, George magazine suggested that there were still major movie figures who continued to block his career.

Lowe is phlegmatic about all that now. “There were times when I have undermined everything I was trying to accomplish. No question of that. But what gets lost is that that’s fairly common in the human condition. It’s pretty much a rite of passage for teenagers to drink too much and be wild. And you just have more access to it if you’re famous and making money. And people are more likely to know about it.” Okay, but Rob, you weren’t quite a teenager.

The experience propelled him into rehab. “I was 26, and I thought, ‘Where do I want to be when I am 36?’ I have been drug- and alcohol-free since May 10, 1990, although I am not a square. I mean, I serve alcohol in my house. And if someone wants to get in the Jacuzzi and smoke some pot, that’s fine by me. If it worked for me, I would be right in there with you.”

He’s enthusiastic about the 12-Step programme, but has not become particularly religious. “I wish I was a more religious person. I really admire Martin Sheen for his Catholicism. It’s such a bedrock. I wish I had that in my life. Although I do pray, and I am completely shameless about it. I only pray when it suits my own needs. I’m not proud about that.” He laughs.

His bedrock has been his wife, Sheryl. They had once had a fling, but then she went out with his best mate, Emilio Estevez and, for various reasons, she and Lowe fell out. But they re-met on the set of Bad Influence, a film in which Lowe was trying, not altogether successfully, to flex his acting muscles, and on which she was the make-up artist. They became great friends again, and then more than that. When he went into rehab, she stood by him, then married him. They now have two sons, Mathew, eight, and John-Owen, six.

Lowe is touching about what he owes to Sheryl. “Of course she’s responsible in some ways for grounding me. But that’s a very unfair mantle to put on anyone. At first it’s a compliment. But then it’s unfair. She never laid down any laws with me. That’s not the loving thing to do. She just said she’d love me anyway. And I wanted to change myself in order to have someone like her in my life.”

And then, on queue, the phone rings and it’s her. They live two hours out of LA, in Montecito, where they have built a house “evocative of an English manor”. In 1992, he’d been working in England on a film of Suddenly, Last Summer, directed by Richard Eyre and starring Maggie Smith and Natasha Richardson. “And one day Sting and his wife rang, because they knew we didn’t know many people in England, and very kindly asked us for the weekend to their country house in Wiltshire. We had never been exposed to that life. That elegant, benign neglect. Wellingtons, sweaters, the dogs, the living room with the fabulous antiques, the communal eating. It blew my mind completely.” So they went back to California and built one of their own. Even before The West Wing he could afford to do that.

Although the scandal clearly affected his life and his career, he did keep on working. The movies just weren’t very good. He talks of himself “as someone who has carried movies”, or “This put me on the cycle of young writer/directors that all the studios wanted to work with”. Excuse me? Carried movies? Which ones? He comes up with Bad Influence, The Hotel New Hampshire, About Last Night and, er, um . . . And as for the writer/director bit, he did certainly write and direct a well-received hour-long short film for the Showtime network in the US, called American Untitled: Desert’s Edge. But that’s it. He has written a feature film called Union Pacific, but it is still doing the rounds to find a producer. He’s not quite on a level with his “good friend” Jodie Foster, whom he mentions at this point.

He kept alive, and even prospered, by working on medium-sized movies and on TV. In 1990, he hosted the cult US entertainment show, Saturday Night Live. Originally they asked him to guest, but he said, “Ring back when you’d like me to host.” It showed a canny understanding of how to keep himself in the public eye in the right way. His opening routine was reading from his (fictional) personal diary of the 1980s. He claims not to be able to remember the jokes now. But you can guess. It also showed off his talent for comedy, and introduced him to Mike Myers, which led to him being cast in Wayne’s World and the Austin Powers movies.

Despite all this activity, The West Wing has been his real re-entry. And, paradoxically, it has taken him away from politics. He no longer has any active involvement, and he feels that it would compromise the way people see the character of Sam Seaborn if he did. He has also changed politically. “I have gotten more conservative. On social issues – women’s right to choose, minority rights, sexual preference rights and all that stuff – I am traditional Democrat. But on the hard stuff, I have moved. I mean, we’ve been running social programmes in this country since Roosevelt, and I am not sure that we have all that much to show for it.”

And neither does The West Wing. “People in the US,” says Lowe, “obsess about the Kennedy administration – Camelot and all that. They yearn for youthful vigour and idealism, charm, intellect, vitality in government. The West Wing speaks to that same want. This show is romanticised wish-fulfilment.”

This may be why, when Bush was elected, The West Wing – or “The Left Wing” as Republicans call it – increased its popularity. Bush scrambled to victory over Gore, but most people, even the ones who did vote, probably didn’t want either of them. In truth, they might have preferred to keep Clinton. In any case, the character of Josiah Bartlet is a classic Clinton figure. He talks left and acts right. When faced with deciding whether to commute a death sentence, he agonises decently and backs the death penalty. When US military personnel are killed, he vows revenge and doesn’t hesitate to use military intervention. The parents of a murdered gay teenager withdraw their support for Bartlet because they think he is not going far enough in backing gays. In the end, it’s a show about the inside of politics as much as it is about the issues. And both the right and the left are hooked on that. As Lowe says, “In Washington, when Clinton was in office, people were very openly unadulterated fans of the show, but my sense in the Bush administration is that of course they watch it, but it’s more covert.”

For himself, Lowe is delighted that the show has not yet traded on his looks. “At the start of the third series, there are a series of flashbacks to where we all met, and Abbie, you know, the president’s wife, says to the president, ‘I like all these young people, that CJ, and the young one.’ And the president says, ‘Sam Seaborn’.” Lowe is cock-a-hoop. “You line up 100 Hollywood writers and give them one word to describe me, and it ain’t going to be young. But that’s the one that Aaron used.”

And so speaks not just a recovering alcoholic, but a recovering pretty boy.

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